Surviving the Fog of Divorce

Divorce is considered the second most stressful life event for an individual, after the death of a spouse (source The Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory).

We all experience loss at some time in our lives. I've experienced many losses -- breaking my neck at 15, the sudden deaths of close friends in college, my cousin's murder, my father's losing battle with ALS -- but none of these prepared me for the disintegration of my marriage.

While I was going through the separation process and then the actual divorce, I was surprised at the lack of resources available to me as a man. I guess men are supposed to just suck it up and tough it out...

Given the lack of resources, I decided I would create a resource. So I developed a membership-based program (with optional coaching) and a seven-step proprietary process aimed at guiding men through, what I call, "the fog of divorce." The Seven Steps are:

1. Private Time - Mourning Has Broken
2. Ground Support - Finding Objective Personal Supporters
3. Air Support - The Value of Using a Professional
4. Friendly Fire - Grieving the Death of Your Marriage and Starting the Healing Process
5. Take Inventory - Your Attributes, Skills, Talents, Gifts, Achievements, ...
6. Familiar Ground - Get Off the Couch and Out of the House
7. Roll Out - Create and Take action Towards Your New Life Goals (TM)

As each man's experience is different, this program is meant not as a prescription or cure-all, it's more like a healthy buffet. Take as much of what you want right now and come back for more as you need it.

If you're a man (or you know a man) currently moving into, going through, or experiencing challenges in the aftermath of a divorce who is looking for coaching, community, support, etc., please request more information and join my Facebook and/or LinkedIn Divorce Coaching for Men group.

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This article features Susan Accardo, a colleague of mine who runs sales for Accu Data Payroll. It's about "buddy punching" (probably not what you think) and the new advancements in tracking time and attendance for employees.

This is an awesome 5-minute video from The Tony Robbins Company.

No trumpets blaring, no fire walking--just transformative advice in the form of 12 simple tenets for living.

Though the video was released for the new year, to me its tenets apply all year long, every year.

Take 5 minutes to watch and reflect.

Aren't you worth that much?

www.tonyrobbins.com/12TENETS/index.html

Would you like to know a secret to being more productive, more effective, more fulfilled?

Here it is: Use your brain.

Seems simple but it’s not. In fact, your brain is often “sabotaging” you without you even knowing it.

How?

Your brain likes to conserve energy. It doesn’t want to work hard. It wants to make everything habitual so it literally doesn’t have to think. For the most part, we couldn’t survive if the brain didn’t work this way. Can you imagine if every day you had to relearn how to walk, talk, drive, brush your teeth, etc.? While these routines serve us well, other habits we’ve created may not.

So how do you harness the power of the brain to get what you want?

You just need to understand how the brain works. (And, no, you don’t need to be a brain surgeon!)